There’s a lot we might feel concerned about in our lives, and in our world right now. It’s good to be awake, paying attention, and feeling compassion for ourselves, others, and our planet.
It’s also good to take a break, let go and lighten up! This morning, participants on the free Wheeeee! tele-fun call gathered up their concerns, danced on behalf of them, and then released them into the morning light. Letting go is an act of self-care. Letting go doesn’t mean that we are selfish or don’t care. Letting go gives us the breathing space necessary to continue to care and to find the energy to take action on behalf of what we care about. If we don’t find ways to release our overwhelmed state, we risk burning out and no longer having the energy to pay attention or care.
Try what we did this morning…
- Breathe and sigh deeply; stretch and breathe again
- Put your palm on your forehead. If your mind has concerns, let them flow into your palm. Breathe & sigh.
- Put your palm on your throat. Let your concerns about speaking your truth flow into your palm. Breathe & sigh.
- Put your palm on your heart. Let your concerns about those you love flow into your palm. Breathe & sigh.
- Put your palm on your belly. Even if you can’t name the concerns in your gut, let them flow into your palm. Breathe & sigh.
Holding your concerns with respectful attention, lift your palm and let it dance. Let your hand move you around the room. Dance on behalf of all the concerns your hand now holds. Open your palm wide, move your fingers, and sense the concerns dancing right out of your hand and into the light around you. Let your hand lighten up – notice the lightness in your hand, body and mind.
Journal about what you notice from this experience.
Breathe and sigh……..and be well.
Waking up into anger and violence. Gut clenches me into a curve. Vigilant adrenalin soldier takes her post.
I know that for people around the world, this is not an uncommon experience. All the innovative possibility of the human mind also extends to expressing our anger, fear, isolation and violence. Wars, murder, torture, abuse to our loved ones, poisoning water and earth – I’m sure you can add to the list from what you’ve seen, read, heard, hold in your heart and in your body.
We embrace expectations of what life will be like.
We desire to feel in control.
We are afraid when things don’t turn out as planned.
We may even sense our identity, reputation, credibility oozing away.
We are angry with anyone and anything we view as changemakers, but…
we often express that on anyone and anything that is within reach in this moment.
Find a little peace today. Take a breath. Create a little peace today. Take a breath. Share a little peace today. Take a breath together.
“I don’t think that making ourselves invulnerable to feeling any onslaught to our feelings will help us in life, ultimately. I think we only learn and grow by allowing ourselves to be really challenged by those feelings that do overwhelm us occasionally.” - Ben Kingsley
Much of what we were told to count on is changing or failing, and whether we embrace or reject those changes, we feel the impact because eventually we must respond. And we actually do feel the impact to our bodies. When income dries up – whack. When home is threatened – whack.. When fire, flood or drought puts us and all our relations in jeopardy – whack. When we clearly see the suffering in the world – whack. In the past few months, more than one of my
coaching clients has used their session time to talk about how bruised they are feeling, and often, the tears flow. They experience their lives as overwhelming, like an avalanche that swallowed them whole. And they feel frozen, doubtful of their ability to know what to do or to take meaningful action. “What to do? What to do?” loops ceaselessly in their minds but they have few answers and feel exhausted by the questions.
I don’t believe the “figuring it out” aspect of our minds is where we should first look to when we feel overwhelmed. The very word overwhelm holds connotations of being faced with something much bigger than we can handle, something that overshadows us physically and makes us feel small and feeble. So I recommend that when you feel overwhelmed, take care of the body first. For example, you might:
- breathe, breathe, breathe – give the body more oxygen and expand that tight feeling in your chest and rib cage
- physically stretch – walk, stretch, yoga, swim to increase your sense that you are physically present and flexible
- shake and shout – releases the built-up energetic information and clears your communication channels
Once you are physically released and re-centered, it’s time to tackle what’s got you overwhelmed:
- write it all down – do a “brain dump” of what’s got you worried, afraid, confused, feeling that you can’t do it all
- break big things into incremental steps – shift into your power place; look for your inner response – “I can do that.”
- decide what you will do today – there’s always something we can do and taking action gives us confidence
- notice what you accomplish and celebrate successes (even small ones)!!!
And lastly, recognize that much of the change that we are all experiencing is not anything that we can control. We can only do our best to respond heartfully and intelligently. Practice deepening your compassion, for yourself, others, the planet. Feel the depth of what is moving you and also release it. Allow this practice to be a foundation for you in these turbulent times, supporting conscious interconnection and allowing ease where no action can be taken.